A measure to allow gay couples to adopt won the Senate’s initial approval Wednesday, despite several lawmakers’ objections that the measure is a backdoor attempt to push the “homosexual agenda.”

“This is a remake of the homosexual agenda,” said Sen. Scott Renfroe, R-Greeley. “It’s not about protecting children. It is an attack on the traditional family. It undermines traditional marriage structure that we need to keep strong and sacred.”

The Senate approved the bill on a party-line voice vote, with Democrats arguing that the “Second Parent Adoption Bill” isn’t about promoting the gay agenda, but about protecting children being raised by an array nontraditional families.

I will never understand the insane non-argument that allowing MORE people to have loving relationships and help children in need somehow “undermines traditional marriage.” I don’t even think that this Scott Renfroe – whoever he is – actually believes this nonsensical sound bite either. This is all about using people’s worst prejudices to build support for your rotten agenda. It’s sickening.

Thankfully, there are more brave, sane and kind people in the Senate than there are Scott Renfroes.

By the way, I wonder how many children Mr. Renfroe has adopted from bad circumstances or rescued from foster care.

Hmmm…let’s see his webpage. According to it, he has five children, no mention of whether or not any are adopted. He does, however, rather strangely, list his family as a “recreational interest:”

Recreational interests are family, golfing, water and snow skiing, snow boarding, basketball and short term missions

He also is so excited about having the opportunity to discriminate that he puts passing laws against our families as his first priority under his “issues” page:

“I believe life begins at conception, and will vote that way every time, without fail.  This issue is a major priority for me.  And you’ll find me strongly in Congresswoman Musgrave’s camp in banning gay marriage in Colorado and across our nation.”

Of all the issues in the world – providing quality health care to people, ensuring a good education for children, working towards peace or protecting our planet, this man’s MAJOR PRIORITY is making sure that some people he doesn’t care for don’t have the same basic human rights that I’m sure he’d want for his five beautiful children.

And while he is described as an evangelical, his other major concerns include making sure businesses have more rights (”We can’t strangle them by creating new licenses, new backdoor taxing methods, and increased regulations that only hamper their ability to employ and serve Colorado citizens.”), closing the door on people in people in need (” Those who enter our country without permission should not be allowed to collect benefits from Colorado taxpayers and should be deported to their home country quickly”) and making sure everyone has a deadly weapon available to them at all times (”You can count on Scott Renfroe to oppose gun control at every turn.  Maybe that’s why Scott Renfroe has been endorsed by Colorado’s only pro-gun political action committee.”)

I could think of a quite a few ways to contrast any one of these views with those of that peace-loving, money-changer-hating, judge-not-lest-ye-be-judged liberal hippie Jesus, but what’s the point?

People like Renfroe are reading from a political playbook, not the Bible. I just don’t understand who’s buying this crap.

 

 

Same-sex weddings are coming out at Disneyland.

Walt Disney Co. said yesterday that gay couples can buy the company’s high-end Fairy Tale Wedding package that allows them to exchange vows at Disney’s theme parks and aboard its cruise ships, starting about $4,000 per wedding.

Same-sex couples have been allowed to use facilities on Disney grounds, such as banquet halls and conference rooms, for commitment ceremonies. But now, same-sex couples have access to the very public elements of the Fairy Tale Wedding plan, which includes a ceremony at one of the parks’ marriage pavilions; Disney costumed characters at the reception; and a ride in a horse-drawn, glass-enclosed carriage through Disney property.

“This is the very logical extension of a business we are already in,” said Leslie Goodman, senior vice president for communications for Disney Parks and Resorts, which operates Walt Disney World in Florida, Disneyland in Southern California and the company’s cruise ships. Disney sells about 2,000 such packages each year, it said. Depending on the couples’ desires, the cost of Fairy Tale Weddings can reach into the tens of thousands of dollars.

Oh, how I long to spend tens of thousands of dollars to marry my husband while dressed as Mulan in front of the gaping tourists at the Magic Kingdom. But could we call it something a little butcher than a “Fairy Tale Wedding?”

Of course, no article about any kind of progress for LGBT people, no matter how innocuous, can be allowed in print unless it quotes someone who hates us. Here’s the ubiquitous umbrage from the radical right-wing:

“I think for years, Disney has reflected the values of America,” said Tony Perkins, president of the Family Research Council, which opposes same-sex unions. “Now, I think it could be argued they are trying to shape those values in a very radical way.”

Damn it – the FRC caught us again! Of course the fact that Disney now allows well-off gay people who want to spend their children’s college funds on a crazy spectacle of excess is secretly a plan to convert naturally heterosexual children into raging homosexuals! How did they figure that out?

As an aside, the actor Tony Perkins lived his whole life as a closeted gay man. Do you think FRC’s spokesperson of the same name doth protest too much?

Massachusetts is the only state that recognizes same-sex marriages, the result of a 2003 ruling by its Supreme Judicial Court.

Three other states — Vermont, Connecticut and New Jersey — have civil unions that extend marriage-like rights to same-sex couples.

California, Hawaii and Maine have granted various spousal rights to same-sex couples registered as domestic partners.

According to the Human Rights Campaign, all but five states — Massachusetts, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York and Rhode Island — have adopted constitutional amendments or statutes banning gay marriage. New Hampshire’s ban is statutory.

The federal government does not recognize same-sex marriages, whether performed in Massachusetts or abroad. Congress has twice failed to approve a proposed amendment to the U.S. Constitution that would ban gay marriage nationwide

The amount of states that have anti-equality statutes and amendments is depressing and shameful, but the fact that any state allows and recognizes some kind of same sex partnership, be it marriage or civil union, is a huge step forward from where we were just five years ago.

So, rejoice! And work hard to make the world a more equal place for our children.

Adoptive parents invest more time and financial resources in their children than biological parents, according to a new national study challenging arguments that have been used to oppose same-sex marriage and gay adoption.

The study, published in the new issue of the American Sociological Review, found that couples who adopt spend more money on their children and invest more time on such activities as reading to them, eating together and talking with them about their problems.

“One of the reasons adoptive parents invest more is that they really want children, and they go to extraordinary means to have them,” Indiana University sociologist Brian Powell, one of the study’s three co-authors, said in a telephone interview Monday.

“Adoptive parents face a culture where, to many other people, adoption is not real parenthood,” Powell said. “What they’re trying to do is compensate. … They recognize the barriers they face, and it sets the stage for them to be better parents.”

Powell and his colleagues examined data from 13,000 households with first-graders in the family. The data was part of a detailed survey called the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study, sponsored by the U.S. Department of Education and other agencies.

The researchers said 161 families in the survey were headed by two adoptive parents, and they rated better overall than families with biological parents on an array of criteria – including helping with homework, parental involvement in school, exposure to cultural activities and family attendance at religious services. The only category in which adoptive parents fared worse was the frequency of talking with parents of other children.

The researchers noted that adoptive couples, in general, were older and wealthier than biological parents, but said the adoptive parents still had an advantage – albeit smaller – when the data was reanalyzed to account for income inequality.

In particular, the researchers said, adoptive parents had a pronounced edge over single-parent and stepparent families.

The researchers said their findings call into question the long-standing argument that children are best off with their biological parents. Such arguments were included in state Supreme Court rulings last year in New York and Washington that upheld laws against same-sex marriage.

The researchers said gay and lesbian parents may react to discrimination by taking extra, compensatory steps to promote their children’s welfare.

“Ironically, the same social context that creates struggles for these alternative families may also set the stage for them to excel in some measures of parenting,” the study concluded.

An opponent of same-sex marriage, Peter Sprigg of the conservative Family Research Counsel, noted that the study focused on male/female adoptive couples, not on same-sex couples, and he questioned whether it shed any new light on adoptive parenting by gays.

Sprigg, the research council’s vice president for policy, said he warmly supports adoption, but believes it is best undertaken by married, heterosexual couples.

Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, welcomed the study’s findings, but cautioned against possibly exaggerated interpretations of it.

“It’s an affirmation that there are all sorts of families that are good for kids,” he said. “Adoptive parents aren’t less good or better. They just bring different benefits to the table. In terms of how families are formed, it should be a level playing field.”

The study was funded by the National Science Foundation, the Spencer Foundation and the American Educational Research Association.

Hmmm, the study says that one of the reason adoptive parents are so great is because “they really want children, and they go to extraordinary means to have them.” Can you think of another group of people who – even when they give birth or build their families through surrogacy – “really want children, and…go to extraordinary means to have them?” Survey says…LGBT parents.

 

Legislation that would replace Vermont’s landmark civil union law with same-sex marriage was introduced Wednesday at the State House.

The bill is sponsored by Rep. Mark Larson (D) and has 32 house members and 10 senators as co-sponsors. “After seven years of civil unions, this is simply the right thing to do,” Larson said in introducing the legislation.

The measure is similar to one Larson put forward last year but failed to gain support.

The legislation, Larson said, would do three things. First, it would give same-sex couples the right to marry. Secondly, it would allow clergy to refuse to perform a same-sex marriage if it violated their religious beliefs. Thirdly it would convert civil unions already performed into marriages.

Good for Larson and the members and senators who are throwing in their support. Civil Unions have had no negative impact at all on anyone in the state. They’ve only served to create more loving families.

Of course, the fact that equality is being achieved on a state-by-state basis does create some problems. My partner and I had a CU when we lived in VT – does this mean we’ll be married if the bill passes? And if down the line, our current state offers CUs or equal marriage rights, will we have to get a divorce in VT? Or will we have two separate marraiges in two states?

Thanks a lot, federal government.

Scott

State Sen. Andrew McDonald, D-Stamford, and state Rep. Michael Lawlor, D-East Haven, co-chairmen of the Judiciary Committee, announced plans yesterday morning to introduce a “marriage equality” bill.

The legislation would not have to be recognized by religious institutions, but proponents say they would afford more rights than civil unions and extend them over state lines.

“We have a chance, yet again, to lift people up,” McDonald said. McDonald and Lawlor are gay.

They were introduced at the event by Anne Stanback, executive director of Love Makes a Family of Connecticut, the chief proponent of 2005’s civil-union legislation. I love this quote from her:

“Divorce is a threat to marriage. Infidelity, domestic violence and losing your job (are) a threat to marriage,” Stanback said. “Marriage is not a threat to marriage.”

Of course, the usual haters were there to remind us that their version of the Almighty strongly supports discrimination against LGBT people in Connecticut.

Unlike other issues, like property tax reform, Republican Senate leader Louis DeLuca said gay marriage goes beyond policy issues.

“The definition of marriage goes back to Christ,” said DeLuca, R-Woodbury.

DeLuca said, as a married man of 53 years, he is offended by efforts to pass a gay marriage bill and is certain it would not survive a statewide referendum.

I don’t remember the part in the Bible where Christ defined marriage – do you? Of course, he did preach about tolerance, love, charity and the importance of accepting those whom some in society would condemn.

But maybe he defined marriage in the crazy-backwards version of the Bible that Rep. DeLuca reads. I gotta get one of those.

You can read the whole story in Connecticut’s Advocate here.

On the postive side, she did defend herself, and by extension, all LGBT parents. This is from the NY Times:

Today at the panel discussion, inside a stuffy room decorated by portraits of stern-looking former Barnard presidents, Cindi Leive, the editor of Glamour, asked Ms. Cheney if she had anything to say to critics like Mr. Dobson.

Mr. Dobson wrote in Time magazine last month that years of social research “indicates that children do best on every measure of well-being when raised by their married mother and father.” He also wrote that his group believes that “birth and adoption are the purview of married heterosexual couples.” (Two of the researchers whom Mr. Dobson cited in his article have complained that Mr. Dobson distorted

their views and said they disagreed with his conclusions.) Ms. Cheney noted Mr. Dobson’s distortions of the research he cited and added:

“Every piece of remotely responsible research that has been done in the last 20 years  has shown there is no difference between children raised by same-sex parents and children raised by opposite-sex parents; what matters is being raised in a stable, loving environment.”

On the other hand, when asked about her dad’s harsh reaction to being given a chance to defend her by Wolf Blitzer, she also acted harshly:

Her father became testy last week during a CNN interview when the host Wolf Blitzer asked what he thought of conservatives — specifically James C. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family— who are critical of his daughter Mary’s pregnancy. In refusing to answer, Mr. Cheney told Mr. Blitzer that he was “over the line.” Ms. Cheney said in a brief interview after the panel that she was not speaking for her father, but that when she saw the interview, she also felt Mr. Blitzer had crossed a line. “He was trying to get a rise out of my father,” she said.

Blitzer’s question was legitimate and sensitively phrased. Does even a kind reference to his daughter’s life get ”a rise” out of him? 

It also worries me that Mary says “This is a baby. This is a blessing from God. It is not a political statement. It is not a prop to be used in a debate, on either side of a political issue. It is my child.” 

Yeah, it’s your kid, and he or she is a blessing, but guess what – you are in a debate, as is every other LGBT parent in America. Our famlies face discrimination, slander and abuse on a daily basis. What makes you unique is that you have a wonderful opportunity to affect that debate and to help change the landscape not just for your child but so many any others. If you take that opportunity, if you resist the temptation to hide behind that wall of privacy and priviledge that your family’s status provides you, maybe 20 years from now when another Vice President’s lesbian daughter has a baby, it won’t be a “political statement.”

But for now, just by virtue of being a gay parent, you are making a statement. The only question for you is — what are you saying?

Well, now I have to eat my words. And I’m thrilled to do so! Now I love, love, love Tony Blair. This is from BBC News:

Downing Street has said there will be no exemption from anti-discrimination laws for Catholic adoption agencies.

But Tony Blair said they would get 21 months to prepare for change, calling this a “sensible compromise”.

Adoption agencies had warned they would close rather than place children with gay couples, saying that went against their beliefs.

The Catholic Church in England and Wales said it was “deeply disappointed” that no exemption had been offered.

The proposed measures are likely to face a vote in Parliament next month before coming into effect on 6 April.

Mr Blair said he believed ministers had found a “way through” to prevent discrimination and protect the interests of children, which all “reasonable people” should be able to accept.

“There is no place in our society for discrimination. That’s why I support the right of gay couples to apply to adopt like any other couple.

“And that way there can be no exemptions for faith-based adoption agencies offering public funded services from regulations that prevent discrimination.”

Can you even imagine an American president standing up to the church like this and saying “There is no place in our society for discrimination. That’s why I support the right of gay couples to apply to adopt like any other couple.” I got chills reading this simple, declarative comment. And why couldn’t he? His own Vice President’s daughter is going to be a gay mom!

What would it mean for this country if our leader took this attitude to all of our citizens were worthy of basic rights?

I’m just floored.

I love you, Tony!
 

The Church, which thankfully has never suffered any gay abuse scandals or anything, has sensibly decided not to look inward but to project their homophobia outwards. Maybe they figure that since their own repressed priests have so much trouble resisting the charms children, and that since their own leadership has been so comfortable turning a blind eye to it for so long, that all adults are unable to keep their hands off of little kids. How else to explain their extreme refusal to accept the law of the land in the country in which they are based?

This is from a Canadian newsource, CBC news, which sums up the troubles thusly:

Catholic adoption agencies should feel free to reject gay couples who apply for children, without fear of punishment from Britain’s anti-discrimination laws, the church has said.

With backing from the Anglican Church, Britain’s Roman Catholic leaders repeated their call Wednesday for Prime Minister Tony Blair’s administration to exempt the Catholic church from Britain’s new Equality Act, due to take effect in April.

Otherwise, the Catholic Church threatened it would shut down its adoption services — which process 32 per cent of all voluntary sector adoptions across Wales and England — shutting out some 4,000 children still awaiting placements.

After all, what are the lives of 4,000 children worth when put against the Church’s right to defame and attack LGBT people? Screw the kids (not literally, of course, although this is the Catholic church we’re talking about…) they figure – let’s screw the gays.

Thankfully, there are some reasonable voices in the debate:

Lord Chancellor Lord Falconer told the BBC Tuesday he did not wish to see Catholic churches close their adoption agencies, but argued that if society disapproves of discrimination against homosexuals, “you cannot give exclusions to people on the grounds that their religion or their race says, ‘We don’t agree with that.’”

Sadly, word is that Tony Blair is leaning towards the church’s side. Another stunningly bad choice from the man who, alone among the world’s leaders, continues to support George Bush’s actions in Iraq.

God save the children from those who act in your name…

But not everyone has been positive. The far right has viciously attacked Mary for bringing a child into this world (see my previous posts for some of the ugliest things they’ve had to say).

Recently, Wolf Blitzer asked the Vice President to respond to the vicious things religious and social conservatives have said about his daughter. Instead of defending his youngest child, Cheney attacked Blitzer for bringing up the subject!

Q We’re out of time, but a couple of issues I want to raise with you. Your daughter Mary, she’s pregnant. All of us are happy. She’s going to have a baby. You’re going to have another grandchild. Some of the — some critics, though, are suggesting, for example, a statement from someone representing Focus on the Family: “Mary Cheney’s pregnancy raises the question of what’s best for children. Just because it’s possible to conceive a child outside of the relationship of a married mother and father, doesn’t mean it’s best for the child.” Do you want to respond to that?

THE VICE PRESIDENT: No, I don’t.

Q She’s obviously a good daughter –

THE VICE PRESIDENT: I’m delighted — I’m delighted I’m about to have a sixth grandchild, Wolf, and obviously think the world of both of my daughters and all of my grandchildren. And I think, frankly, you’re out of line with that question.

Q I think all of us appreciate — THE VICE PRESIDENT: I think you’re out of — I think you’re out of line with that question.

Q — your daughter. We like your daughters. Believe me, I’m very, very sympathetic to Liz and to Mary. I like them both. That was just a question that’s come up and it’s a responsible, fair question.

THE VICE PRESIDENT: I just fundamentally disagree with your perspective.

So, what’s up with the Vice President? Why was it wrong to give him an opportunity to defend his daughter? Why is Cheney criticizing Blitzer, instead of conservatives like Bill O’Reilly, who said that gay parents like Mary Cheney are “taking Mother Nature and…throwing it right out the window?” Or Paul Cameron who said “Her pregnancy is further evidence that participation in homosexual activity distorts value systems, inducing practitioners to harm the commonweal. Our society already has too many children born without the benefits of marriage; Cheney’s action is not only a bad example, but poor treatment of an innocent child?” Or James Dobson who wrote “With all due respect to Cheney and her partner, Heather Poe, the majority of more than 30 years of social-science evidence indicates that children do best on every measure of well-being when raised by their married mother and father?” Or Robert Knight who said ” “I think it’s tragic that a child has been conceived with the express purpose of denying it a father?”

As a parent myself, I don’t understand how Mr. Cheney doesn’t defend his daughter against attacks like that.

Nor do I get why he’s mad at Blitzer for discussing his daughter in a totally sympathetic light.

If I were Mary Cheney, I’d be devasted by my father’s actions. I’m so sorry for her. I hope she offers her child unconditional love and that she stands to defend him or her against attacks like the ones she’s suffered.

One way in which people do that is by adopting their partners. It seems odd to think of adopting another adult with whom you have an intimate relationship, but in some cases, it does give partners the rights of inheritence, ownership and other legal protections that they wouldn’t otherwise have.

Of course, this workaround brings its own problems. 365Gay.com reports on this story from Maine, where millions of dollars are at stake:

In 1991 Olive F. Watson used the law to adopt her partner of 14 years, Patricia A. Spado. Even though the couple lived in Connecticut Watson owned a summer home in Maine.

Watson was the daughter of former IBM executive Thomas J. Watson Jr., who was the CEO of the company from 1956 to 1971 and built it from a small cash register maker to a computer giant.

Now Watson, Spado and the Watson estate are battling in court over whether Spado is entitled to a share of the late Thomas Watson’s estate.

When Watson adopted Spado there were no same-sex partnership agreements in the country and Watson believed it would provide Spado with security if anything happened to her.

But a year later the couple broke up.

When Thomas Watson’s widow died in 2004 his fortune went into a trust and her 18 grandchildren became eligible to receive income from two trusts until they turned 35, at which time they would receive the principal outright.

Several months later a lawyer representing Spado notified the trust that there was a 19th grandchild, Spado, and that she also was entitled to a share of the trust.

A probate court in Connecticut where the will was filed ruled that Spado was not a grandchild and not entitled to any month. The decision is now on appeal in the state’s superior court.

What a mess! Had Watson and Spado had equal rights, Watson could have protected her partner through marriage and dissolved that marriage through a divorce. Another example of how discrimination hurts everyone.

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January 14, 2007: Today I talk to Jen Chrisler, the wonderful, articulate and passionate executive director of The Family Pride Coalition.

We chat about Mary Cheney (of course), and I make a strong pitch for you to support Family Pride. They do such wonderful work – will you consider making them a part of your giving in 2007?

Speaking of giving, I mention on the show a relevant article in the NY Times about what makes people happy. Here’s an interesting quote:

Positive psychology brings the same attention to positive emotions (happiness, pleasure, well-being) that clinical psychology has always paid to the negative ones (depression, anger, resentment). Psychoanalysis once promised to turn acute human misery into ordinary suffering; positive psychology promises to take mild human pleasure and turn it into a profound state of well-being. “Under certain circumstances, people — they’re not desperate or in misery — they start to wonder what’s the best thing life can offer,” says Martin Seligman, one of the field’s founders, who heads the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania. Thus positive psychology is not only about maximizing personal happiness but also about embracing civic engagement and spiritual connectedness, hope and charity. “Aristotle taught us virtue isn’t virtue unless you choose it,” Seligman says.

See? Giving to Family Pride will make you happy!

And while you’re at it, don‘t forget to contribute to the nation’s largest LGBT organization, HRC. They do so much for our community; let’s do for them, too.

Thanks to HRC for their sponsorship and, as always, thank you for listening.

The curriculum, titled “Respect for Differences in Human Sexuality,” explains concepts like sexual identity and orientation using nonjudgmental language.

Students in eighth grade are taught to recognize healthy relationships, and how to define human sexuality, gender identity and other terms. Students in 10th grade receive a more robust curriculum, including an examination of topics like coming out. It also asks students to consider the challenges a transgender student might face.

It wasn’t a total win – sadly, the school district omitted some “controversial” passages that would have made life a lot easier for some LGBT youth, including mentions “that most health professionals agree that homosexuality is not an illness, and that gays can live happy and successful lives. ”

Obviously, just because these statements are demonstrably true doesn’t mean they should be taught to our children.

Of course, life is all about balance and while we didn’t get everything we want, neither did the haters.

Although the final vote was unanimous, the discussion was not always amicable. (A) proposed amendment — to clarify that homosexuality is not a disease — was vehemently opposed by board member Steve Abrams, who said the addendum was a “deal breaker,” and proposed that students likewise be told about a recent study that showed “homosexual behavior between animals can be changed.”

What kind of person would object to children being taught that homosexuality isn’t a disease? I can’t think of anyone, not even the most right-wing religious conservatives out there, who claim that it is.

And if it is a disease, is it contagious? Like bird flu? Should straight people be wearing hazmat suits when getting their hair done or meeting with an interior decorator? Or can you catch it by watching Project Runway? Why isn’t the CDC looking into this?

And what about his claim that there’s a study somewhere that shows that homosexuality among animals can be changed? Is this through religion, as the reparative therapists claim? Do nelly poodles or butch bulldogs relinquish their sinful ways through a relationship with Jesus? I want to know.

Has anyone else seen or heard about this study, or does it only exist in the mind of Mr. Abrams?

Actually, in the end Mr. Abrams said “I think the balance that was reached was an appropriate one and a good one, at least for starters.” 

See, he can be reasonable. Now, if only he hadn’t put on the surgical mask everytime a gay person testified at the hearing…

Disappointingly, Massachusttes lawmakers moved closer to letting the public vote on whether or not we deserve basic civil rights. This editorial in the Boston Globe takes them to task.

Meanwhile, California courts say we deserve to be treated as equal citizens, an opinion they don’t share with the Governor.

The Seattle Post Intelligencer points out that since a growing number of people support our rights to defend our nation in the military, why don’t they support our marriage rights, too? “So now that we’re considering letting homosexuals in on our big, national sacrifice,” the article concludes, ”maybe we can also let them get married. Just an idea.”

Don’t ask John McCain, who Vanity Fair reports, has been inscrutable. Here’s an exerpt from the article, in which he’s apparently vying for the Most Craven Politician of the Year Award. His politically motivated pandering at the expense of our families is just tragic.

It is three weeks before midterm elections that will prove to be a decidedly mixed bag for McCain. His party will experience the electorate’s repudiation of the war in Iraq, which McCain has always supported, and at the same time the voters will repudiate the cozy and corrupt Washington culture as a whole, which McCain has always loathed. Matthews wants to know McCain’s views on the prevalence of gay people in all walks of life, a subject whose predicate is the scandal involving Representative Mark Foley and his come-hither instant-messaging with congressional pages. “Should gay marriage be allowed?,” Matthews asks.

“I think that gay marriage should be allowed, if there’s a ceremony kind of thing, if you want to call it that,” McCain answers, searching in vain for the less loaded phrases he knows are out there somewhere, such as “commitment ceremony” or “civil union.” “I don’t have any problem with that, but I do believe in preserving the sanctity of the union between man and woman.” It may not be clear just what McCain is trying to say, but it’s easy to see how his words could be skewed in a direction that the Republican right might not like at all.

Fast-forward to the next commercial break, during which McCain and Matthews reposition themselves from the stage to the auditorium floor to take questions from the students. McCain’s longtime political strategist, John Weaver, a lanky, laconic Texan, moves in to whisper some advice. The next question is about the pending federal farm bill, and McCain repeats his long-standing opposition to certain agricultural subsidies.

But then, out of nowhere, he adds, “Could I just mention one other thing? On the issue of the gay marriage, I believe if people want to have private ceremonies, that’s fine. I do not believe that gay marriages should be legal.” There: he said it, the right words for his right flank. It might seem that this audience, the sons and daughters of a socially conservative and culturally traditional bellwether state, would accept, if not approve of, what McCain has just declared. But they are the Wi-Fi wave of the future, and they can smell a pander bear as surely as they can a hog lot. They erupt in a chorus of deafening boos. “Obviously some disagreement with that last comment,” McCain says tightly. “Thank you. It’s nice to see you.”

Moments later, McCain remounts the stage for the program’s final segment, and he bores into Weaver, standing quietly in the wings, with a cold look that seems to mingle irritation at Weaver’s whispered advice with regret that he took it, and demands, almost hisses, “Did I fix it? Did I fix it?”

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 May 2007 find all famlies able to share the love and diversity that we exhibit in ours.

xoxox

Scott

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The nice thing about it was that the article was written by me. You can read it here.

Well, it’s 2006, and not only is O’Reilly no longer a fan of gay parenting, but he’s become completely unhinged. How else to explain his comments in a recent interview with the wonderful Jennifer Chrisler, executive director of Family Pride (also present for the interview was journalist Norah Vincent):

CHRISLER: Yeah. You know, look, the reality is — is that research’s been done, and — and there is 30 years of that research, and it’s incontrovertible. There is no deficit.
Children do equally as well when they have two moms and two dads, or whether they have a mom and a dad, and if you’re really concerned –
O’REILLY: Well, that’s your story, but you know the Family Research Council and all the other have all the other data that says that is not the case, that there is a — something missing in the emotional realm, but I don’t even want to get into that. Nature dictates that a dad and a mom is the optimum, does it not?
CHRISLER: No, because the reality is they’re bad dads and bad moms, and they’re are –
O’REILLY: The nature doesn’t dictate that.
CHRISLER: You know –
O’REILLY: So what you’re saying to me is that a lesbian couple and a gay-guy couple are just as equipped to raise a child as heterosexual parents? That’s what you’re saying?
CHRISLER: Absolutely. Yeah, without a doubt –
O’REILLY: No difference.
CHRISLER: — because love –
O’REILLY: No difference.
CHRISLER: — stability, commitment, kindness, caring, values, morals, discipline, guidance, that’s what really makes good parents, and if we want to be worried about what we’re going to talk about here, we should talk about what are the qualities of a parent that really make a difference for a child, and that’s what it is.
O’REILLY: All right, well, I disagree with you. I’m going with nature. I’m going with — [free-lance journalist] Miss [Norah] Vincent, I’m going with — I’m throwing in with Mother Nature here and I’m going best-case scenario, dad and a mom. Am I a bigot?
VINCENT: No, you’re not a bigot for saying that, but nature is procreation, and we’re talking about something cultural called parenting.
O’REILLY: No, I’m talking about raising kids. I’m talking about — I know there are bad parents –
VINCENT: Well, there’s nothing inherent in biology –
O’REILLY: — and I know there are good gay parents. Absolutely, all right?
VINCENT: OK.
O’REILLY: But I’m talking optimum, best for the kid, having a mom and a dad. Are you going to call me a bigot for that?
VINCENT: Not at all, no. It’s a legitimate preference.
O’REILLY: Are you going to, Miss Chrisler, call me a bigot for that?
CHRISLER: Nope, I’m just going to call you wrong –
O’REILLY: Wrong.
CHRISLER: — which you are. So –
O’REILLY: You know, why wouldn’t — why wouldn’t nature then make it that anybody could get pregnant by eating a cupcake? You know? You know, you just throw –
CHRISLER: Well, we’d have –
O’REILLY: You take Mother Nature.
CHRISLER: We’d have a lot of people, wouldn’t we?
O’REILLY: You know the old commercial — don’t fool around with Mother Nature? What you’re doing is you’re taking Mother Nature and you’re throwing it right out the window, and I just think it’s crazy. I really do. And that’s not based on religion or morals or — Annie [sic], you’re a good person, Norah’s a good person. All right? But it’s just that you say, “Hell with nature — the hell with it. We’re going to do what we want. It’s just as good. And you guys are crazy.” And that’s what you’re saying.

Hey, speaking of “crazy” Bill – you’re nuts!  Not only do you constantly interrupt your guests, not only do you dismiss the vast majority of credible research which proves that children raised by same-sex parents suffer no ill effects, and not only do you keep referring to “Mother Nature” as if you watched those Parkay commercials one too many times as a kid and now you’re fixated on an imaginary figure, but you somehow manage to work cupcakes into the discussion.

Cupcakes!

It reminds me of when the killer of Harvey Milk trotted out the “Twinkie Defense” as a justification for why he murdered his victim.  This is the “Cupcake Argument.”

And can you prove that O’Reilly’s wrong?  It’s undeniably true that no one can get pregnant by eating a cupcake, right? So then, doesn’t it stand to reason that it’s wrong for two parents of the same gender to raise a child together in a loving home? I mean, isn’t that connection as clear as day? 

It is to Bill O’Reilly.

Maybe he should read my article again. Or have a cupcake. 

BTW, I took the above transcription from Media Matters here. They make some excellent points, including these:

In fact, the American Psychological Association (APA), the American Academy of Pediatrics, the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), and the Child Welfare League of America, among others, have all noted that credible scientific data shows that children suffer no harm from being reared by same-sex parents.
For instance, as Colorado Media Matters has noted (here and here), the American Psychological Association (APA) concluded in a 2005 study of lesbian and gay parenting that “[n]ot a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents.” The study also found that “the evidence to date suggests that home environments provided by lesbian and gay parents are as likely as those provided by heterosexual parents to support and enable children’s psychosocial growth.”

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/30/bill-oreilly-to-gay-parents-let-them-eat-cupcakes/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-gay-parenting-show-29-the-vice-presidents-daughters-baby-and-ellen-kahn-from-hrc/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-gay-parenting-show-29-the-vice-presidents-daughters-baby-and-ellen-kahn-from-hrc/#comments Tue, 26 Dec 2006 22:03:40 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-gay-parenting-show-29-the-vice-presidents-daughters-baby-and-ellen-kahn-from-hrc/ The Gay Parenting Show #29: The Vice President’s Daughter’s Baby and Ellen Kahn from HRC (71 mins, 25MB)

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December 26, 2006: After eating a lot of humble crow for my looooong absence from the show, I talk about Mary Cheney and interivew Ellen Kahn, from the HRC Family Project.

It’s so embarrassing, but because of the show’s hiatus, the interview with Ellen is a Back to School Special! Airing in December! Can you ever forgive me?

Thanks to all of you for listening and to HRC for their sponsorship!

Scott

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-gay-parenting-show-29-the-vice-presidents-daughters-baby-and-ellen-kahn-from-hrc/feed/ 1 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-survey-says-gay-parents-are-great/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-survey-says-gay-parents-are-great/#comments Tue, 26 Dec 2006 19:27:29 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-survey-says-gay-parents-are-great/ December 26, 2006: William Saletan recently wrote in the Washington Post and Slate that while conservatives are furiously condemning my new favorite person Mary Cheney, (actually, I have mixed feelings about her. As she faces these terrible attacks against her and her family, I keeping thinking “as ye reap, so shall ye sow.” But I’ll try to be more charitable in the New Year) they are searching for any study they can point to that says that gay parents are unfit.

I wrote earlier about one researcher whose findings were so distorted by James Dobson of Focus on the Family that she asked him to stop lying about her work!

Saletan looked at the studies to see if he would have better luck finding truly negative outcomes for the children of LGBT parents. Here’s what he turned up:

The 30-year search for proof that gay parents are destructive looks a lot like the hunt for WMD. The American Psychological Association has compiled abstracts of 67 studies. Some are plainly biased, and only the latest two or three have avoided the methodological flaws of earlier investigations. But after 67 tries, you’d expect the harm of gay parenting to show up somewhere. Yet in study after study, on measure after measure, kids turn out the same.

One study found that straight parents “made a greater effort to provide an opposite-sex role model for their children,” but it doesn’t say whether this affected the kids. Another says children raised by lesbian couples “were more likely to explore same-sex relationships,” but it doesn’t say they turned out gay. Other studies say they seldom do.

That’s it. That’s the evidence against gay parenthood. On the other hand, three studies say lesbians share child care more equally than straight couples do. Others conclude that lesbians are more satisfied with their relationships, that they show more “parenting awareness skills,” that nonbiological lesbian moms “played a more active role in daily caretaking than did most fathers,” and that their kids are less domineering and experience “greater warmth and interaction with their mother.”

Such unwelcome findings haven’t chastened the antigay lobby any more than they’ve chastened the Bush administration. If the direct evidence doesn’t bear you out, look for indirect evidence. So conservatives have developed a subtler argument: On average, children do best when raised by their two married, biological parents.

Let’s take this argument a piece at a time. It’s true that two parents are better than one. It’s also true that married parents are better than unmarried ones. But those aren’t arguments against gay parenthood. They’re arguments for gay marriage.

You can read Saletan’s clever and correct article here.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/27/the-survey-says-gay-parents-are-great/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/22/china-makes-gay-adoptions-nearly-impossible/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/22/china-makes-gay-adoptions-nearly-impossible/#comments Thu, 21 Dec 2006 20:10:55 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/22/china-makes-gay-adoptions-nearly-impossible/ December 21, 2006: According to front page story in The New York Times yesterday, the country that brought us Tiananmen Square is putting strict restrictions on who may adopt their orphans, one of which will severely limit LGBT adoptions. This is from 365Gay.com:

The Chinese government is preparing to bar gays from overseas from adopting Chinese children under new guidelines about to be made official according to US private adoption agencies.

The government has not announced the changes but the US agencies, which specialize in foreign adoptions said Wednesday they were informed of the move by government officials.

Under the changes people who are unmarried, over 50, or obese would be barred from adopting.

One American agency said about 25 percent of its adoptions were of Chinese children, but the agency did not say how many of those were by gay prospective parents.

The changes in the system were revealed by Adoption International Mission and Families Thru International Adoption.

While many American lesbians wishing to have children use in vitro fertilization gay men usually adopt, and many have chosen children from China.

Of course, if equal marriage existed in this country, LGBT married couples could apply and see what happens. As it is, I wonder how an application from a gay married couple from MA would be received? My guess is not well – I believe that China has shown a negative inclination towards LGBT adoptions in the past. But then again, the country isn’t exactly a leader in civil rights:

The situation of human rights in the People’s Republic of China has been criticized by various sources, including other nations – particularly Western democracies – as well as international organizations, as being poor in many respects. Past human rights issues include the Great Leap Forward, a policy that caused 20-30 million Chinese to die of starvation, and the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989, when 400-2000 protestors were killed and 7000 to 10000 were injured.

But they’re worried about LGBT people raising children they don’t want:

Although the Chinese government argues that this policy is necessary to stop overpopulation, China’s birth control policy, known widely as the One-Child Policy, is seen as morally objectionable by many foreign observers, as well as some Chinese. Such critics argue that it contributes to female infanticide, abandonment and sex selective abortions. These are believed to be relatively commonplace in some areas of the country, despite being illegal and punishable by fines and jail time [15]. This is thought to have been a significant contribution to the gender imbalance in mainland China, where there is a 118 to 100 ratio of male to female children reported, although underreported female births may reduce this figure. Forced abortions and sterilizations have also been reported

LGBT people who are raising children from China are giving love and opportunity to children who deserve every chance they have for happiness. Too bad the Chinese government wants to stop that.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/22/china-makes-gay-adoptions-nearly-impossible/feed/ 1 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/21/fear-of-gay-penguins-these-people-are-crazy/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/21/fear-of-gay-penguins-these-people-are-crazy/#comments Thu, 21 Dec 2006 01:02:40 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/21/fear-of-gay-penguins-these-people-are-crazy/ December 20, 2006: Awhile ago, I became aware of a “controvery” because some backwards school district somewhere in the dark heart of this country was protesting the availabliity of “And Tango Makes Three,” a story of two male penguins who raise an abandoned egg. To see what all the fuss was about – and to support the put-upon author – I bought the book from Amazon.com.

Of course, the story was sweet and harmless. But not according to the good people of N.C. where some extremely small-minded people are once again trying to ban the book. This is from Charlotte.com:

CHARLOTTE, N.C. – Superintendent Peter Gorman and his top lieutenants have ordered a picture book about presumably gay penguins removed from school libraries, the first time Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools has banned a book in more than a decade.

But Gorman said Tuesday he’ll let a committee review the decision after Charlotte Observer questions revealed he and his staff sidestepped CMS policy.

The ban came from a miscommunication between him and his chief of staff, Robert Avossa, Gorman said. “I screwed this one up.”

“And Tango Makes Three,” the real-life story of “the very first penguin in the zoo to have two daddies,” has drawn objections in schools or public libraries in seven states.

All decided to keep the book, according to the American Library Association. Charlotte-Mecklenburg’s public library has also rejected a request to remove it, a spokeswoman said.

CMS pulled the penguin love story without a formal complaint. Gorman said a couple of parents had asked him about the book, in which two male penguins at New York’s Central Park Zoo pair up and hatch an adopted egg, and Republican county commissioner Bill James had e-mailed him.

Interestingly – the story says that the book-burner Gorman didn’t even receive complaints – just inquiries from parents. But that wasn’t enough to stop the horrowshows quoted below from sending this notice to all schools in the district:

On Nov. 30, top CMS administrators Ruth Perez, Ronald Dixon and Gloria Miller sent a memo to principals and media specialists explaining the decision to ban the book from all schools.

“First, it is a picture book that focuses on homosexuality. Second, we did not feel that such information was vital to primary students. Next, we did not believe the book would stimulate growth in ethical standards, and the book is too controversial.”

My question is, why are we allowing mentally ill people to be “top administrators? Anyone who feels threatened by a picture book about penguins has very serious problems which require psychiatric help, not appointments to high-ranking positions in our public schools.

By the way, the book is based on an absolutely true story about two male penguins. G-d forbid we let our children read the truth!

Meanwhile, librarians continue to be one of the few professional groups actually fighting for civil rights and intelletual honesty (unlike, say, politicians). Listen to this righteous fury:

“One parent’s decision shouldn’t dictate whether or not the book is available to all the other families in the community,” said Deborah Caldwell-Stone of the American Library Association. “Any challenge to a book is ultimately an attempt to remove an idea from public discourse.”

 Amen, sister, amen.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/21/fear-of-gay-penguins-these-people-are-crazy/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/18/the-world-only-spins-foward/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/18/the-world-only-spins-foward/#comments Mon, 18 Dec 2006 11:22:16 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/18/the-world-only-spins-foward/ December 18, 2006: In another sign of progress, New Jersey is added to the list of states legally recognizing gay partnerships.

This is from New Jersey.com.

New Jersey lawmakers on Thursday approved the civil union bill, putting same-sex couples within a pen’s stroke of acquiring the rights and benefits of marriage.

At the same time, Governor Corzine and powerful legislators declared that after a law is in place, they would be open to an amendment granting gay activists what they have sought: the word “marriage” itself.

Corzine has said he intends to make the bill law, but he indicated he could take days, even weeks, to review Thursday’s legislation.

“We’re going to do a study, as we do on all legislation, to make sure what we’re getting is what we intended to get,” Corzine said. “We don’t want to make a mistake that ends up harming individuals because we did something too quickly.”

State law gives him 45 days to sign or veto a bill that clears the Legislature. If approved, the civil union bill would go into effect 30 days later.

In the Assembly the measure passed 56-19; in the Senate it was 23-12.

Just recently, South Africa passed an equal marriage law. Which means that South Africa – South Africia – now leads the US in civil rights! Although if you live in NJ, at least you get some of the legal protections of marriage. And maybe even the word itself.

This is what progress looks like, people.

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/18/the-world-only-spins-foward/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/15/170/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/15/170/#comments Thu, 14 Dec 2006 14:39:56 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/15/170/ December 14, 2006:

Conservative Christians continue to shower the Cheney-Poe famliy with the love for which they are famous. Here’s the always-compassionate James Dobson writing in Time:

With all due respect to Cheney and her partner, Heather Poe, the majority of more than 30 years of social-science evidence indicates that children do best on every measure of well-being when raised by their married mother and father. That is not to say Cheney and Poe will not love their child. But love alone is not enough to guarantee healthy growth and development. The two most loving women in the world cannot provide a daddy for a little boy–any more than the two most loving men can be complete role models for a little girl.

Isn’t it funny how when someone starts a sentence with “in all due respect” you can be pretty sure they’re going to say something incredibly insulting and disrespectful?

In making his case, Dr. Dobson felt free to cite the work of a well-respected child-development expert:

According to educational psychologist Carol Gilligan, mothers tend to stress sympathy, grace and care to their children, while fathers accent justice, fairness and duty. Moms give a child a sense of hopefulness; dads provide a sense of right and wrong and its consequences. Other researchers have determined that boys are not born with an understanding of “maleness.” They have to learn it, ideally from their fathers.

Apparently, in addition to being unkind, Dr. Dobson is also a liar and a distorter. At least he is according to that psychologist he cited, Dr. Gilligan. She wrote him a letter obtained by a previous guest on The Gay Parenting Show, Wayne Besen

Dear Dr. Dobson:

I am writing to ask that you cease and desist from quoting my research in the future. I was mortified to learn that you had distorted my work this week in a guest column you wrote in Time Magazine. Not only did you take my research out of context, you did so without my knowledge to support discriminatory goals that I do not agree with. What you wrote was not truthful and I ask that you refrain from ever quoting me again and that you apologize for twisting my work.

From what I understand, this is not the first time you have manipulated research in pursuit of your goals. This practice is not in the best interest of scientific inquiry, nor does bearing false witness serve your purpose of furthering morality and strengthening the family.

Finally, there is nothing in my research that would lead you to draw the stated conclusions you did in the Time article. My work in no way suggests same-gender families are harmful to children or can’t raise these children to be as healthy and well adjusted as those brought up in traditional households.

I trust that this will be the last time my work is cited by Focus on the Family.

Sincerely,

Carol Gilligan, PhD
New York University, Professor

I love, love, love it when people speak truth to power. You go, girl!

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/15/170/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/13/what-happens-to-the-kids-when-we-divorce/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/13/what-happens-to-the-kids-when-we-divorce/#comments Wed, 13 Dec 2006 01:50:24 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/13/what-happens-to-the-kids-when-we-divorce/ December 12,2006: Although LGBT people have more stable relationships than their straight counterparts (50% divorce rate, anyone?) we do break up. When there are children involved, what do we do? It’s a problem that an increasing number of courts are trying to solve. This is from the Star Tribune of Minn/St. Paul:

Marilyn Johnson and Nancy SooHoo, like a growing number of gay and lesbian couples in Minnesota, became parents through international adoptions a decade ago.
Now separated, they are embroiled in a child-visitation dispute that has reached the Minnesota Supreme Court. The court’s decision could set a precedent in a new frontier in family law: determining the future visitation rights of nontraditional parents.

Listen, all kinds of things happen in relationships, but I really do think there’s something to the old style of couples that stayed together for the sake of the kids. As one observer in this case notes “Adoptive children, in particular, often have a subliminal fear of abandonment, and this long legal battle has been a strain. This is a case that has broken my heart. These children deserve more.”

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/13/what-happens-to-the-kids-when-we-divorce/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/09/mary-cheney-provides-us-with-help-from-an-unlikely-source/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/09/mary-cheney-provides-us-with-help-from-an-unlikely-source/#comments Fri, 08 Dec 2006 22:29:38 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/09/mary-cheney-provides-us-with-help-from-an-unlikely-source/ December 8, 2006: Although I can’t think of an Administration less likely to do anything to help LGBT famlies than this one, Mary Cheney’s pregnancy might be one of the best things to happen for us in a long time.

This is the Vice President’s daughter – his daughter! – openly becoming the most famous gay mom since Rosie! This is huge! How will the conservatives and the religious right reconcile their hatred and intolerence towards our families when one of their very own joins our ranks?

Their statements so far are, of course, ugly and uninformed. These people who claim to be so loving once again show their true colors. Some nightmare called Robert Knight of the Media Research Center offered this: “I think it’s tragic that a child has been conceived with the express purpose of denying it a father.” Can you imagine someone so ugly and unkind that they would frame it in this way? That the Vice President’s daughter is having a child to “deny it a father,”rather than to build a loving family? Where is the love, people?

Certainly not with the charming Janice Crouse of Concerned Women for America who described the pregnancy as “unconscionable.” I suppose she’d know. No wonder she’s concerned!

She went on to say that “Not only is she doing a disservice to her child, she’s voiding all the effort her father put into the Bush Administration” To her credit, Ms Crouse didn’t say whether this is a good thing or bad.

Not to be outdone was always good-for-laugh Paul Cameron of The Family Research Institute, which describes itself as “a non-profit scientific and educational corporation that believes the strength of our society depends on preserving America’s historic moral framework and the traditional family.” Of course, Dr. Cameron once again uses his peerless scientific scrutiny and insights to predict Mary Cheney’s early death or to accuse her of exposing her child to sexually -transmitted diseases and basically committing child abuse. What lovely well-wishes for the happy mom-to-be. Here they are in his own “scientifc and educational” words:

By this selfish action, Cheney is not merely disrupting society, she is being cruel to her child:

• Mary, 37, is currently ‘partnered’ with Heather Poe, 45. The median age of death for lesbians is around the late 50’s. If Poe and Cheney stay together, odds are this child will lose at least one caretaker before graduating high school.
• Children of homosexuals testify that day-to-day living is more difficult – and they are more apt to report personal disturbance as a consequence.
• A high proportion of lesbian ‘partnerings’ break apart — with custody issues haunting the child for the rest of his life. (Scott’s note: Not like that 50% of heterosexual couples who divorce!)
• The child will disproportionately associate with homosexuals – who are as a class considerably more apt to have STDs and a criminal history, be interested in sex with children, involved in substance abuse, etc.
• The child will have a much higher probability of learning homosexual tastes (at least a third of lesbian’s children adopt homosexuality). (Scott’s note: Is this a dig at Vice President’s wife, who famously wrote about lesbian sex in one of her novels. How slanderous!)

“Her pregnancy is further evidence that participation in homosexual activity distorts value systems, inducing practitioners to harm the commonweal. Our society already has too many children born without the benefits of marriage; Cheney’s action is not only a bad example, but poor treatment of an innocent child. (Scott’s note: Not to mention all that harm done the ‘commonweal!’”

Imagine what they’d be saying if this was the daughter of a Democratic president! Let’s all take a moment to thank the heavens that Chelsea Clinton is heterosexual!

At least the Vice President and his wife said they were looking forward to the arrival of their grandchild. And according the the White House “when Vice President Cheney told President Bush that his daughter was pregnant, the president congratulated him.” Good for them!

Now, let’s see if they put into public policy marriage equality and other protections that would help families like Mary’s who aren’t as rich, famous, and priviledged as hers.

This Washington Post article sums it all up nicely.

And I agree with the President! Congratulations and best wishes to Cheney and Poe!

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/09/mary-cheney-provides-us-with-help-from-an-unlikely-source/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/08/back-in-business-2/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/08/back-in-business-2/#comments Thu, 07 Dec 2006 14:27:12 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/08/back-in-business-2/ December 7, 2006: First, I want to apologize for the long delay between posts – and shows. But there is a good explanation.

A while back, because of our public presence on the web and elsewhere, our family became the target of some threatening actions. I really can’t go into any details, but it was very frightening and a number of law enforcement authorities and other governmental agencies became involved.

Given the circumstances, I felt it was in my family’s best interests to lay low for awhile and stay out of the public eye.

But you can only live in fear for so long.

My first priority will always be to protect my children. Nothing is more important than looking out for their welfare.

At the same time, as LGBT families, we owe it to our kids and to future generations to be as open as possible. It is only by demonstrating the “normality” of our famlies and the love that we share that we will ever demystify the concept of our lives.

When people see us raising our children with the same affection and respect that every famliy should have, they will have the information they need to overcome their fears and hostility (whether they choose to accept the plain truth before their eyes is another matter, of course).

I’m pretty sure that the recent threat to our familiy has been taken care of. With that out of the way, I think it’s time to post and podcast again.

Will there be other threats in the future?  I don’t know. Does speaking out openly increase the chance that we will have to deal with more hatefulness in the future? Probably.

But I don’t think that silence and hiding is productive as a long-term solution. Only light can dispell darkness. Only courage defeats fear. Only truth trumps lies. And only love conquers hate.

In the immortal words of Lenny Kravitz, it’s time to let love rule.

I’m back.

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/12/08/back-in-business-2/feed/ 2 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/30/the-gay-parenting-show-28-back-to-school-episode-with-aimee-gelnaw/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/30/the-gay-parenting-show-28-back-to-school-episode-with-aimee-gelnaw/#comments Sat, 30 Sep 2006 03:47:34 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/30/the-gay-parenting-show-28-back-to-school-episode-with-aimee-gelnaw/ The Gay Parenting Show #28: Back to School Episode with Aimee Gelnaw (MP3 –18MB –52min)

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September 28, 2006: It’s Back to School Time, and tireless advocate, educator and activist Aimee Gelnaw is on to tell you about her new curriculum for teaching early educators how to talk about diverse families with pre-schoolers and young-schoolers. Aimee and her partners are doing incredible work helping prepare the next generation of teachers for making schools more welcoming places for all kinds of families, including our own.

I also talk about how my son is adjusting to school. Better than I adjusted to my first PTA meeting, I can tell you that much!

In news, we talk about why I think how the mainstream media’s careless quoting of right-wing so-called “experts” on LGBT adoption hurts our families, and how Arnold Schwartenegger refused to sign a bill that would have prevented kids from getting beat up. Because, suddenly, protecting children is controversial.

Thanks to HRC for their sponsorship and thanks to you for listening.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/30/the-gay-parenting-show-28-back-to-school-episode-with-aimee-gelnaw/feed/ 1 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/21/more-proof-that-anti-gay-activists-are-repressing-themselves/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/21/more-proof-that-anti-gay-activists-are-repressing-themselves/#comments Wed, 20 Sep 2006 20:28:10 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/21/more-proof-that-anti-gay-activists-are-repressing-themselves/ September 20, 2006: I’ve often said that people who get unduly worked up about homosexuality and who devote themselves to preventing our community from having basic human rights are probably having some kind of psychological crisis.

More proof of this phenomenon has emerged as the former Governor of New Jersey, Jim McGreevey, says this in a recent interview:

Once publicly opposed to gay marriage, former New Jersey Gov. James E. McGreevey now says he spoke out against the idea as a way to keep his homosexuality hidden.

“I did not want to be identified as being gay, and it was the safe place to be,” McGreevey said Tuesday in an interview with The Associated Press. “I wanted to embrace the antagonist. I wanted to be against it. That’s the absurdity.”

Whether they are unconciously acting out against their own repressed same-sex feelings, or purposefully overcompensating to hide the truth of their double lives, most people who harbor strong anti-gay feelings have real issues with thier own sexuality. Healthy people are content to live their own lives and don’t feel the need to control or harm others.

I’m glad McGreevey has emerged from his own personal darkness into the light of truth and mental health. He shows that there’s hope for the homophobes.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/21/more-proof-that-anti-gay-activists-are-repressing-themselves/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/10/gov-schwarzenegger-refuses-to-help-kids/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/10/gov-schwarzenegger-refuses-to-help-kids/#comments Sat, 09 Sep 2006 17:08:09 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/10/gov-schwarzenegger-refuses-to-help-kids/ September 9, 2006: In a move that could only serve to pander to his most conservative supporters, Gov Arnold Schwarzenegger, who, we must remember, as a Hollywood star must have frequently worked and socialized with a ton of LGBT people, has vetoed legislation that would have barred discrimination against LGBT kids in public schools.

This is from The Mercury News:

The measure, SB 1437 by Sen. Sheila Kuehl, D-Los Angeles, would have prohibited the instruction, use of textbooks or school-sponsored activities that adversely reflect on people based on their sexual orientation — adding to an existing law that bars discrimination in schools based on race, sex, color, creed, handicap, national origin or ancestry.

Schwarzenegger said the measure wouldn’t have enhanced protections offered under current law against discrimination based on sexual orientation.

“I think that it is covered by the Education Code. It says it all, that we fight prejudice,” Schwarzenegger told reporters Wednesday, adding that he’s “totally committed 100 percent to fight prejudice in our schools.”

Schwarzenegger’s veto was not totally unexpected for a Republican governor running for re-election and trying to strengthen his conservative voting base.

But the bill’s author called the veto “inexplicable” and said she “deeply amended” the measure in response to Schwarzenegger’s initial opposition. In its original form, the measure would have required schools to teach students about the contributions of prominent gays, which drew fire from conservative organizations.

“Since we amended the bill simply to bar discrimination in official teaching materials, I an extremely disappointed that the governor chose to respond to a small, shrill group of right-wing extremists rather than a fair-minded majority of Californians who support this reasonable measure,” Kuehl, who was traveling out of the country Wednesday, said in a statement.

“This piece of legislation would have only modestly expanded existing statutes to bring us one step closer to the goal of safe schools for all children,” Kuehl said, adding that gay, bisexual and transgender students need “equal protection” because they face hostilities on campuses.

Of course, the haters applauded the Governor’s actions:

The president of the Pacific Justice Institute, a non-profit group that defends civil liberties and opposes bills that “push pro-homosexual curricula,” said Schwarzenegger made the right decision.

“Without question,” said Brad Dacus, “the governor did the right thing at the right time.”

I don’t mean to be naive, but I really don’t understand how someone like Schwarzenegger, who MUST know what he’s doing is wrong, lives with himself. Or how someone like his wife, Maria Shriver, can live with him. They’re just awful, awful people who would sell out the happiness and safety of vulnerable children – children! – to get and hold onto their power. It’s sickening.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/09/10/gov-schwarzenegger-refuses-to-help-kids/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/24/arkansas-to-foster-kids-fewer-homes-for-you/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/24/arkansas-to-foster-kids-fewer-homes-for-you/#comments Wed, 23 Aug 2006 17:59:27 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/24/arkansas-to-foster-kids-fewer-homes-for-you/ August 23, 2006: Bad news from Arkansas, where a majority of the population supports a proposed bill to bar LGBT people from providing much-needed foster care to children who desperately need homes. This is from 365Gay.com. 

A majority of people in Arkansas support a proposed bill to bar gays and lesbians from becoming foster parents a new poll shows. 

In June the Arkansas Supreme Court upheld a lower court ruling that it is unconstitutional to bar gays and lesbians from being foster parents. (story)

The justices rejected an appeal from the Arkansas Department of Health and Human Services which had argued children would suffer under the care of gays or lesbians.

The poll by Opinion Research Associates for a group of Arkansas newspapers owned by Stephens Media shows that 62 percent of adults surveyed oppose gays as foster parents. Twenty-six percent would permit it and the remainder either had no opinion or refused to answer.

The state Child Welfare Agency Review Board in March 1999 imposed the ban on placing foster children in households with gay adults in what it called an effort to protect children from disease, violence, sexual abuse, neglect and instability.

A challenge was filed that year by the ACLU on behalf of four prospective foster parents. Among them was William Wagner who has been married for 31 years and has a 27-year-old daughter and a 23-year-old son.  Although Wagner is a married heterosexual, he was disqualified from serving as a foster parent because his gay son sometimes lives at home. 

In 2004, Circuit Court Judge Timothy Fox ruled the state Child Welfare Agency Review board had overstepped its authority by trying to regulate “public morality.”  In May the state Supreme Court upheld his ruling.

The court addressed the narrow issue of whether the Agency had overstepped its bounds.  

Conservative politicians on both sides of the aisle say they will support legislation to bar gays from becoming foster parents.   

Outgoing Republican Gov. Mike Huckabee supports a ban.  Huckabee, touted as a potential GOP presidential candidate told an Iowa audience that while the high court ruling accused the Board of  overreaching it did not rule on the merit of banning gays from fostering.

“Our attorneys read into that that if it was legislation it would likely stand, that we could in fact say that only married couples could be foster parents,” Huckabee said. “We think that if we go back and codify that into law that probably takes care of it.”The Democrat vying to replace Huckabee also supports a ban. Mike Beebe saw his endorsement by the state’s Stonewall Democrats lifted because of his stand. Prior to the ruling Beebe met with Stonewall members and according to those at the meeting said he would oppose any legislation to limit gay fostering or adopting. But following the ruling Beebe announced his support for a bill to block gays and lesbians from serving as foster parents

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/24/arkansas-to-foster-kids-fewer-homes-for-you/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/22/see-judith-e-snow-in-grand-rapids/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/22/see-judith-e-snow-in-grand-rapids/#comments Tue, 22 Aug 2006 00:04:29 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/22/see-judith-e-snow-in-grand-rapids/ August 21, 2006: Wonderful former Gay Parenting Show guest Judith E. Snow, (author of How It Feels to Have A Gay or Lesbian Parent,) will be speaking at the Eberhard Center at Grand Valley State University in Grand Rapids, Michigan, on Friday, Sept 22.

Check out Gays in Faith Together for the details.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/22/see-judith-e-snow-in-grand-rapids/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/11/is-this-clear-enough/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/11/is-this-clear-enough/#comments Fri, 11 Aug 2006 10:03:34 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/11/is-this-clear-enough/ August 11, 2006: On the occassion of the annual meeting of the Tragically Repressed Self-Hating Hatemongers, I mean, of the North American Association to Treat Homosexuality (NARTH), the American Psychiatric Association issued this repudiation of NARTH’s sick agenda:

“For over three decades the consensus of the mental health community has been that homosexuality is not an illness and therefore not in need of a cure. The APA’s concern about the positions espoused by NARTH and so-called conversation therapy is that they are not supported by the science. There is simply no sufficiently scientifically sound evidence that sexual orientation can be changed. Our further concern is that the positions espoused by NARTH and Focus on the Family create an environment in which prejudice and discrimination can flourish.”

You go, psychiatrists! This came from Truth Wins Out, which does an excellent job documenting the excesses of the “ex-gay” movement.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/11/is-this-clear-enough/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/05/they-just-get-worse/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/05/they-just-get-worse/#comments Fri, 04 Aug 2006 18:29:57 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/05/they-just-get-worse/ August 4, 2006: Well, the move is complete and we’re settled in our new house. Our internet service is up and running (thank you Verizon!) and I’m glad to be back with you.

Unfortunately, my joy is tempered by the latest verbal vomit coming from the Religous Right. An organizer from a group founded by Alan Keyes has said just about the ugliest thing I’ve ever heard. This is from 365Gay.com:

“The newest thing in Chicago, it’s becoming a trend, and you’re gonna find this hard to believe…sex with infants,” Guy Adams told an Internet radio show hosted by fellow conservative Stacy L. Harp.

Just in case that wasn’t awful enough, Adams went on to spew some more:

“It’s not enough that they have…you know when you engage in perversion, and homosexuality is perversion, we don’t hate the gays mind you, we don’t hate them, we hate what they’re doing…pretty soon that perversion is like addiction, it’s not enough, so you need to graduate to something else. You need to move on. So now they’re having sex with animals, a small group that’s getting bigger, sex with infants, sex in the street in Chicago out in the open, it’s just getting more and more perverted.”

These people are demented. They are obsessed with the most perverse sex acts imaginable, and, in a fashion describe a hundred years ago by the great Sigmund Freud, they distance themselves from their own sick fantasies by projecting them onto others.

This man belongs in an institution, locked away from the vulnerable, not employed by a major leader of the religious right. Even Alan Keyes, a man who cut off his own daughter when she came out as a lesbian, must know that discourse this toxic is wrong.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/08/05/they-just-get-worse/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/31/the-big-move/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/31/the-big-move/#comments Mon, 31 Jul 2006 13:03:04 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/31/the-big-move/ July 31, 2006: Sorry for the infrequent posts, but I’m in the middle of The Big Move. Now that my partner has taken a full time job in Washington, DC, we’re relocating from Vermont to Maryland. 

I’m staying in a Best Western right now (although if this is the best Western, I’d hate to see the worst) in anticipation of the closing on my new house later today. Tomorrow, our furniture and household goods should be delivered (in 100+ degree weather – I feel sorry for the moving men!) and I’ve already scheduled installation of high-speed internet for the following day. 

After that, I hope to be up and podcasting again soon.

Moving with kids isn’t easy. But we’re really looking forward to living in the DC area, which has a wonderful, support community of LGBT parents. As I tell my six-year old, he already has friends in this area, he just hasn’t met them yet. I feel the same way.

Talk to you soon,

Scott

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/31/the-big-move/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/13/more-scientific-evidence-supports-our-families/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/13/more-scientific-evidence-supports-our-families/#comments Wed, 12 Jul 2006 17:28:11 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/13/more-scientific-evidence-supports-our-families/ July 12, 2006: The American Academy of Pediatrics, hardly a fringe or radical group, has once again made it clear that that our famlies are OK with them.  This is from Gay.com:

Children of same-sex couples benefit when their parents are able to marry or form civil unions, according to a report commissioned by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

“The Effects of Marriage, Civil Union and Domestic Partnership Laws on the Health and Well-Being of Children,” published Wednesday in the July issue of Pediatrics, concluded that civil marriage can strengthen families and help foster financial and legal security, psychosocial stability, and a greater sense of societal acceptance and support for kids.

The report underscores a large body of research showing that children raised by same-gender parents fare as well as those raised by heterosexual parents, and that there is no relationship between parents’ sexual orientation and any measure of a child’s emotional, psychosocial, and behavioral adjustment.

This report is especially important in light of the recent decision of the NY Supreme Court to deny equal marriage rights, partially because the court claimed that it isn’t clear if LGBT parents are good for kids. Well, why would they listen to the nation’s pediatrician’s – the front line defenders of children’s well-being – when they can listen to religious extremists and right-wing homophobes?

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/13/more-scientific-evidence-supports-our-families/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/08/huge-letdown-in-ny/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/08/huge-letdown-in-ny/#comments Fri, 07 Jul 2006 14:35:55 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/08/huge-letdown-in-ny/ July 7, 2006: Maybe just becasue I’m an optimist, but I assumed that the NY Supreme Court was going to find that the NY State Constitution required equal marriage rights. Unfortunately, the court let us down. I’m sure you’ve read all about it by now, but if not, check out my favorite gay news site, www.pageoneq.com, for links and commentary.

But beyond the disappointment of the ruling itself, I was surprised by the ugliness and poor reasoning of the decision – especially for our families. In writing his decision, Judge Robert S. Smith – a name that will live in infamy – pointlessly included tired – and demonstrably untrue – stereotypes that equal marriage rights will somehow hurt children. This is from Arthur Leonard in the Gay City News.

Smith embraces the peculiar reasoning of the federal court of appeals from the 11th Circuit in its recent decision upholding Florida’s ban on gay people adopting children, the unprovable but conventional assumption that children benefit more from being raised by opposite-sex married couples than by same-sex couples. Setting aside as essentially irrelevant the numerous studies showing that children raised by both kinds of couples turn out about the same, Smith insists that the absence of substantial long-term studies undermines their usefulness, and that the Legislature is free to go on imagining—applying, in his words, “the common-sense premise”—that it is protecting children by forbidding same-sex couples from marrying.

In other words, to Smith the word “rational,” when used to evaluate legislative action, includes acting out of habit or custom, even in the face of contrary evidence. A true conservative, he believes it is rational to blindly preserve existing social arrangements even when they have the effect of discriminating against a segment of society.

As Judge Kaye points out in her dissent, Smith never addresses the significant disadvantages visited upon the numerous children being raised by same-sex couples as a result of the state’s refusal to allow their parents to marry.

Joe Solmonese, President of the Human Rights Campaign (and our sponsor!), had this to say about the court’s decision as it impacts our famlies:

“The court’s archaic reasoning is rooted in ignorance and completely contradicted by the facts of today. The court threw the expert advice of child welfare professionals and years of scientific evidence out the window with its ruling against fairness.”

HRC’s press release went on to give this excellent summation of the body of evidence which refutes attacks on our parenting: 

Bolstered by all major research studies, the prevailing professional opinion is that a parent’s sexual orientation has nothing to do with his or her ability to be a good parent. The nation’s leading child welfare, psychological and children’s health organizations also have issued policy or position statements in this regard, including:

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (1999)
American Academy of Family Physicians (2002)
American Academy of Pediatrics (2006)
American Bar Association (1995, 1999 and 2003)
American Medical Association (2004)
American Psychiatric Association (1997 and 2002)
American Psychoanalytic Association (2002)
American Psychological Association (1976 and 2004)
Child Welfare League of America (1988)
National Adoption Center (1998)
National Association of Social Workers (2002)
North American Council on Adoptable Children (1998)
The American Academy of Pediatrics journal published a report this month finding that children of same-sex couples would benefit from marriage fairness for their parents. Read more on the opinion of leading professional organizations.

The NY court ruling is a huge disappointment, but our community will find a way to move forward. If only for the sake of our children, equality will prevail. But we must work to achieve our freedom. What have you done today to make the world a better place for our families?

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/08/huge-letdown-in-ny/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/04/hate-takes-a-holiday/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/04/hate-takes-a-holiday/#comments Tue, 04 Jul 2006 00:38:30 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/04/hate-takes-a-holiday/ July 3, 2006: As we prepare to celebrate our nation’s histroy of freedom, some recent bids to discriminate against LGBT people are sputtering out like wet firecrackers.

In Illinois, an anti gay marraige amendment does not look like its going to make it to the ballots in November, and in Pennsylvania, an proposed amendment that would have banned equal marriage and civil union rights has died in committee. 

G-d bless America.

 

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/07/04/hate-takes-a-holiday/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/what-made-you-gay/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/what-made-you-gay/#comments Mon, 26 Jun 2006 17:24:06 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/what-made-you-gay/ June 26, 2006: In a previous post, I wrote about a comprehensive article that demonstrated that the vast majority of scientific studies show that whatever it is that makes people gay, it’s there at the time of birth.

Here’s another study that suggests that homosexuality is biologically determined (at least for gay men). This one posits that as the number of biological male siblings increases, so does the probability of being gay. Interestingly, adoptive siblings don’t have the same effect – suggesting that a physical, gestational change leads to homosexuality rather than the environmental presence of older brothers.

This is from the Chronicle Herald:

A new study suggests a male’s sexual orientation is not the product of his environment but rather is influenced by biological factors present before birth.

Researchers at Brock University in St. Catharines, Ont., have found evidence that “a prenatal mechanism(s) . . . affect men’s sexual orientation development.”

The study’s author, Prof. Anthony F. Bogaert, explored the causes behind what is known as the fraternal birth order, research that shows a correlation between the number of biological older brothers a man has and his sexual orientation.

Bogaert’s study, which will be published this week in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, argues for the so-called nature, instead of nurture, explanation of homosexuality.

“These results support a prenatal origin to sexual orientation development in men and indicate that the fraternal birth-order effect is probably the result of a maternal ‘memory’ for male gestations or births,” Bogaert writes.

Bogaert, who teaches in both the community health science and psychology departments at Brock, studied more than 900 heterosexual and homosexual men in Canada who had either biological or non-biological brothers.

Dividing his sample into four groups, Bogaert examined the impact of all types of older brothers, including step and adopted siblings, and the amount of time brothers spent together while growing up.

His research found that only the number of biological brothers had an impact on sexuality, regardless of whether the boys were raised together.

“The number of biological older brothers, including those not reared with the participant . . . increases the probability of homosexuality in men,” the study reads.

Bogaert also found that the amount of time being raised with older brothers did not influence a younger sibling’s likelihood of being gay.

Writing a commentary piece accompanying Bogaert’s study, professors from Michigan State University noted that his research puts to lie the notion that one’s social environment can affect sexuality.

“It is the number of older biological brothers the mother carried, not the presence of older brothers while growing up, that makes some boys grow up to be gay,” write David Puts, Cynthia Jordan and Marc Breedlove.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/what-made-you-gay/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/back-in-business/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/back-in-business/#comments Mon, 26 Jun 2006 17:11:10 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/back-in-business/ June 26, 2006: Sorry not to have posted in awhile, but I’ve been super-busy with the usual nonsense as well as getting ready for our move to the Washington, DC area.

The good news is that we sold our old house and bought a new one – in a town called Cabin John, Maryland. (Anyone from nearby? Let’s get together when we move down in early August!)

The bad news is that we have to actually move – pack, do a ton of paperwork, get the kids from here to there, ugh.

The other bad news is that last week, in a disaster of almost Biblical proportions, both my laptop AND desktop computers crashed. At the same time! Surely, a sign of the coming Apocolypse.

I have them both (kind of) running again, so I’m going to try and get back online with more posts and shows coming soon.

 

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/27/back-in-business/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/06/dark-days-ahead-for-our-families/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/06/dark-days-ahead-for-our-families/#comments Mon, 05 Jun 2006 15:03:27 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/06/dark-days-ahead-for-our-families/ June 5, 2006: The President’s and right-wing Congressional efforts to reopen the “debate” on same-sex marriage pretty much ensure that all kind of ugly and horrible things will be said about our families in the days to come. Ugh.

After Laura Bush’s comments to Fox News that “I don’t think [equal marriage rights] should be used as a campaign tool, obviously,” the President has chosen to do his part for “traditional marriage” by completely ignoring his wife’s words. In fact, Newsweek reports that Mr. Bush doesn’t even care about this issue personally – he’s just throwing chum to the right-wing sharks.

Though Bush himself has publicly embraced the amendment, he never seemed to care enough to press the matter. One of his old friends told NEWSWEEK that same-sex marriage barely registers on the president’s moral radar. “I think it was purely political. I don’t think he gives a s–t about it. He never talks about this stuff,” said the friend, who requested anonymity to discuss his private conversations with Bush.

This is all so depressing. Once again, our families are attacked for political gain.

Our son is too young to understand watch the news, but my heart goes out to those of you whose older children will hear all the disgusting things people are about to say us as they mount their campaign to write hate into our Constitution.

Of course, where there is darkness there is always light. Although the haters are still depending upon this issue to motivate their base, the majority of the country isn’t buying this crap. According to Newsweek again, “While the GOP leadership clearly hopes this tack can revive their sputtering election prospects this fall, some GOP strategists aren’t so sure. While the GOP leadership clearly hopes this tack can revive their sputtering election prospects this fall, some GOP strategists aren’t so sure. Pew polls show a 10-point jump in support for gay marriage since 2004.”

If you want to do something about this attack on our famlies, be sure you talk to your straight families, friends and co-workers about how this hurts you and your children. Also, check out HRC, which is leading the fight against the anti-gay amendment to the Constitution.

]]> http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/06/06/dark-days-ahead-for-our-families/feed/ 0 http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/05/31/parenting-magazine-gets-it-right/ http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/05/31/parenting-magazine-gets-it-right/#comments Tue, 30 May 2006 17:14:48 +0000 Scott http://gayparenting.thepodcastnetwork.com/2006/05/31/parenting-magazine-gets-it-right/ May 30, 2006: The latest issue of Parenting Magazine, June 2006, has an article called The Birds and the Bees and Curious Kids, all about questions children ask about sexuality. Amongst such stumpers as “Why is my penis getting hard,” and “How does the sperm get to the egg anyway?” Parents poses the scenario “Your child tells you her classmate has two mommies. ‘How can that be?’ she asks.

OK, so lets leave out for a moment the unfortunate inclusion of same sex parents with an article specifically on “sexuality.” As Dana at Mombian points out, this issue would have been better addressed in a story about families or relationships.

How is Parenting’s answer otherwise? Pretty good!

How to respond: Homosexuality may seem like a confusing subject — especially for kids who haven’t even gotten the concept of heterosexuality down yet. But your explanation doesn’t have to be complicated: “In Ginny’s family, her two mommies love each other the way that Daddy and I do. So they live together, and both take care of Ginny.”
The topic may also come up after your child hears a homosexual slur. Christi Cole’s daughter Caitlyn, 6, said a boy at school had been telling kids in her class, “You’re gay”—so of course she wanted to know what that meant. The Augusta, Georgia, mom explained that sometimes boys fall in love with boys and girls fall in love with girls, but that the boy at Caitlyn’s school probably didn’t really understand what he was talking about. Then she reminded her daughter that calling people names isn’t nice and might hurt someone’s feelings.

Kudos to Parenting for this sensitive and sensible advice.

BTW, they never actually do give an answer to the poor kid who asks about his erection. All he gets is ” “Oh, that happens sometimes. It will get soft again soon.”

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