Author Dan Savage on the next Gay Parenting Show
October 20, 2005: Yesterday, I had a great time interviewing author, columnist, activist and gay dad Dan Savage for the next episode of The Gay Parenting Show. Dan’s a great guy, and our interview covered his new book, The Commitment, our families, and a bunch of other stuff. Here’s what Publisher’s Weekly has to say about The Commitment:
The author of the internationally syndicated column “Savage Love” brings much-needed humor, and a reality check, to the bitter gay-marriage debate with this polemical memoir. As Savage (Skipping Towards Gomorrah) and his boyfriend, Terry, neared their 10th anniversary, Savage’s mother put on the pressure for them to get married. But, Savage notes, there were several other points to consider before deciding to tie the knot: among them, the fact that marriage doesn’t provide legal protection in Washington State; Terry prefers tattoos as a sign of commitment; and their six-year-old son declared that only men and women can get married. Furthermore, Savage himself worried that the relationship would be jinxed by anything more permanent than a big anniversary bash, though the one they plan quickly assumes the proportions and price of a wedding reception. While documenting the couple’s wobble toward a decision, Savage skewers ideologues, both pro– and anti–gay marriage, with his radical pragmatism. Disproving Tolstoy’s dictum that “happy families are all alike,” he takes a sharp-eyed, compassionate look at matrimony as it is actually practiced by friends, his raucously affectionate family and even medieval Christians. When he explains to his son what marriage is really about, you want to stand up and cheer, and the surprise ending is both hilarious and a tear-jerker. As funny as David Sedaris’s essay collections, but bawdier and more thought-provoking, this timely book shows that being pro-family doesn’t have to mean being anti-gay.
Dan’s interview is funny and thought-provoking. He even answers a question from a listener who wrote in to ask what she should do about her concern that her daughters will be teased because they have two moms. Hear Dan’s sensible advice and more on Episode 10 of The Gay Parenting Show, which should be posted sometime this weekend (October 22nd or 23rd). See you then!