I just listened to your Podcast #5, and was impressed with your guest,
Evan Wolfson, executive director of Freedom to Marry. I work for a Fortune 100 company, a component of the Dow Jones index, that still does not provide domestic partner benefits. Even though I am a registered domestic partner in California, and have applied for benefits as such, my employer turned me down since it is their policy only to provide health and dental benefits to married employees. Since CA does not legally offer marriage rights to GLBT citizens this means my partner is excluded from the same benefits that my straight, married co-workers enjoy.
I was impressed by his suggestion of engaging our fair minded straight friends, and well as your point that being outed by your kids provides an opportunity for neighbors to see you as a caring, loving, and healthy family unit.
Keep up the good work !